Weight Loss for People Who Feel Too Much by Colette Baron-Reid

Author:Colette Baron-Reid [Baron-Reid, Colette]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 978-0-307-98612-2
Publisher: Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale
Published: 2012-12-31T16:00:00+00:00

Step Three: Reclaim Your Power to Choose (“There’s a Difference Between a Compulsion and a Choice!”)

You are halfway through the program. I’m guessing you no longer feel at the mercy of an out-of-control world, and you’ve stopped frantically swimming about in the turbulent seas of unrestrained emotions. At last, you can drop your hypervigilance and relax. It’s much easier to make conscious decisions about what you’re going to focus on and what actions you’re going to take. Who wouldn’t want to embrace the freedom to choose what to think about, feel, and do?

You will always have some strong emotions that seem to have a life of their own, which make it hard to think clearly and make good decisions, but by now you’ve realized you have more control over them than you thought you did. You let yourself feel anger or fear, but you don’t exacerbate those emotions by allowing your thoughts to run wild—you stop and correct yourself. Those automatic, negative beliefs about yourself are being replaced by new, positive ones that you affirm daily. Inadequacy and low self-worth are on the wane. Enough of that!

You also have a better, more accurate perspective on your past battles with weight, food, and empathy overload. Now you see that you weren’t armed with the wisdom you needed to disengage from fruitless obsessions over your weight, the shape of your body, or what you snacked on, so you aren’t experiencing guilt or self-hatred as often as you used to. The old beliefs and feelings that go along with the guilt and self-hatred don’t disappear overnight, but you have experienced their fading in intensity. Isn’t it a relief to have quieter emotions?

When strong emotions do crop up, you now know what to do: you use the IN-Vizion Process to check in with yourself and see where you are, what’s happening, and where you want to be. You know how to avoid empathy overload by doing your 4:00 P.M. salt baths, EFT, and affirmations, keeping the news and media stimulation to a minimum, and sticking to quiet foods rather than the noisy ones that trigger a strong, emotional reaction. Life is a lot calmer than it was just four weeks ago!

Now, in Step Three, you reclaim your power to consciously make good decisions instead of allowing your subconscious fear, anger, sadness, and agitation to take over your thoughts and whip up a frenzy of feelings that make you discombobulated. The first choice I know you’ll want to make is to tame the whirlwind of emotion when it threatens to sweep you up. It’s too stressful to be so reactive to what’s going on around you and to get so agitated that you lose your power to make conscious choices.

One of the reasons people who feel too much become caught up in the emotional whirlwind is their habit of taking care of others. As I said earlier, because it’s easy for you to tune in to others’ emotions, you probably are a natural healer, nurturer, teacher, advocate, or caregiver (or a combination of these).

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